How We Are Raising Our Daughters to Be Clueless…and It’s Killing Them

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

As women, most of us want to be respected, empowered, and valued for more than just the way we look. I don’t know a single woman who wants to be seen as clueless.

The very word evokes images of air headed and naive behavior that just doesn’t match our culture of fierce and fabulous women…women who are on a mission to prove to the world that we want to be valued and taken seriously.

As mothers, grandmothers, mentors, and teachers, we wouldn’t teach our children half of the alphabet. We wouldn’t stop at the number 9 when teaching them to count, and we wouldn’t purposely neglect any part of their education that would leave them unprepared to live and thrive in this world.

Why is it then that we neglect to teach them so many important things about their bodies? The very vehicles that house something as important as their souls. Perhaps it is because we don’t fully understand them ourselves.

It’s true that we don’t need to understand them at the level that a doctor or a nurse might. However, that shouldn’t prevent us from having a working knowledge of what each system does and how each body part serves us.

Why, because it is very difficult to respect what we don’t understand.

We need to get to a point where when we look at ourselves in the mirror, we see more than what is on the outside.

At a time when physical beauty is so important to our society, my hope is that women and girls of every shape and size will gaze at their reflections, and see a miracle.

The basics of anatomy are undoubtedly covered in most school curriculum, and I’m sure the teachers do a great job of laying the foundation, but let’s take it one step further.

We must practice and teach appreciation for each organ, system, limb, and cell.

  • Underneath the bed-head is a brain that has an amazing capacity to store knowledge, facts, and figures.
  • Below the surface of dimpled skin, lies a web of intricate systems that work tirelessly each day to give us life!
  • A slightly too large nose still gives us the ability to smell flowers, fresh cut grass, and the freshness of the air right after it rains.
  • Even eyes that are too big or too small give us the ability to see the beauty of God’s world and the faces of our loved ones.
  • Legs that are “too big” still get us from Point A to Point B.
  • And, an extra layer of skin over our tummies may just show that we are blessed with the bounty of food that provides our bodies nourishment.

Respect for our bodies starts with the understanding of the amazing things that it does and allows us to do.

Love for our bodies grows by truly appreciating the gift that we have been given, no matter what the wrapping looks like.

Eating disorders, bullying, premature sex, drug and alcohol abuse, unhealthy relationships, and so many things that we fear for our daughters, have roots in low self-esteem…much of which is caused by a poor body image.

We have the power to turn clueless into courageous, thoughtless into thankful, and backward into blessed.

Live it and teach it…girls everywhere depend on it.


For more on this topic see Is It Okay to Love Myself – Self-Esteem from a Christian Perspective“.


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